ABILENE, Texas (BigCountryHomepage.com) – After a domestic violence suspect was shot and killed by an officer with the Abilene Police Department (APD) Monday morning, Big Country Homepage wanted to highlight local resources available to those who may need help, and offer warning signs for loved ones of potential victims to monitor.

Warning signs

One out of three women in Texas have suffered from domestic violence. Getting the feeling your loved one may be in an abusive situation is scary for all involved.

According to Women’s Advocates, here are some warning signs to be aware of:

  • Pushing for quick involvement: Comes on strong, claiming, “I’ve never felt loved like this by anyone.”
  • Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because “you might meet someone.”
  • Controlling Behavior: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you’re late) about whom you talked to and where you were; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to do anything.
  • Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect mate and meet his or her every need.
  • Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who support you of “causing trouble.”
  • Blaming others for problems or mistakes: It’s always someone else’s fault when anything goes wrong.
  • Making others responsible for his or her feelings: The abuser says, “You make me angry,” instead of “I am angry,” or says, “You’re hurting me by not doing what I tell you.”
  • Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, claiming hurt feelings when he or she is really mad.
  • Cruelty to animals or children: Kills or punishes animals brutally.  Also, may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability (whips a 3-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.
  • Use of force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex.
  • Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things, degrades, curses, calls you ugly names.
  • Rigid roles: Expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.
  • Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweet to violent in minutes.
  • Past battering: Admits to hitting a mate in the past, but says the person “made” him (or her) do it.
  • Threats of violence: Says things like, “I’ll break your neck,” or “I’ll kill you,” and then dismisses them with, “I didn’t really mean it.”

Immediate assistance

For immediate assistance, the Noah Project in Abilene is the number one resource for domestic violence.
Call 1 (800) 444-3551 or click here to email the service.

The Noah Project works with women and families to mold domestic violence victims into survivors. Support services are offered to men, women, children and unaccompanied youth who are experiencing family, domestic dating and sexual violence.
Click here to help support the Noah Project.

Additional resources

The Abilene Housing Authority and APD/ Regional Victim Crisis Center both have extended resources lists.
This list is in no particular order.

Abilene Police Department, Regional Victim Crisis Center (325) 677-7895 Sexual assault, physical assault, murder, robbery, kidnapping, stalking, etc.
Abilene Police Department, Regional Victim Crisis Center (325) 676-7107 Family violence
Abilene Adult Protective Services (325) 691-8100 Abuse, neglect and exploitation of adults who are elderly or have disabilities 
Abilene Child Protective Services(325) 691-8100State agencies designed to protect children from abuse or neglect
Child Advocacy Center (CAC) (325) 738-8060 Child sex abuse
Harmony Family Services, Inc. (325) 672-7200Therapeutic foster care & emergency shelter for abused/neglected children
Abilene Behavioral Health (800) 335-3498 Inpatient and outpatient mental health services

Resources for after leaving your abuser

This list is in no particular order.

City Light Community Ministries(325) 673-6686 Assist with rent, utilities, some prescriptions, bus passes, gas
New Beginnings – Big Country(325) 665-5538Transitional housing for women
Salvation Army of Abilene(325) 677-1408 Provide assistance with clothing, furniture, rent & utilities; 24-hour emergency shelter, lunch & dinner
Taylor County Social Service (325) 674-1341 Assist with rent, utilities, some prescriptions, vision and dental care and indigent burial costs
Rolling Plains Management Corp.(325) 674-1341Child care, self-sufficiency, housing crisis, utility assistance, head start, etc.
West Central Texas Child Care Program Operations (CCPO)(325) 795-4283Affordable childcare
Big Brothers Big Sisters(325) 677-7839Emotional support and activities for children
Texas Workforce Commission(325) 795-4200Career development info, job search resources, training programs, etc.
Faithworks(325) 437-2272Life skills training includes job search and retention skills
Christian Women’s Job Corps. (325) 673-6686, ext. 106Life and job skills training, educational support
Abilene Baptist Social Ministries(325) 672-4193Assists with clothing, food, etc.
Love and Care Ministries(325) 670-0246Assists with food, clothing, prescriptions, birth certificates, IDs and more
Taylor County District Attorney’s Victim Coordinator (325) 674-1261Information and referrals to those victimized by violent crimes
Texas Department of Criminal Justice Victims’ Services(800) 848-4284 Direct, personal service to victims and their families throughout Texas